lieutenant-sapphic:

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theactualcluegirl:

gothiccharmschool:

yonebayashin:

wiredonwarid:

pulitzer-prince:

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. Hold your head high, and look others in the eye

2. Smile

3. Stop apologizing

4. Relax and be quick to laugh at yourself (but not at others!)

5. Dress in a way that indicates you have self worth

6. Use good manners (like saying please and thank you) as this is actually a mark of self respect

7. Expect other people to believe in you, and to see and appreciate your good qualities.

8. Before you know it, its no longer fake

wheRE WAS THIS ALL MY LIFE

As someone who did this, I can guarantee you it legit works

This, my darlings. All of it. Because step 8 is true: it will no longer be fake, you will have taught yourself to have confidence. 

I feel like it’s really important to point out here though, that there is a direct causative link between this practice and Imposter Syndrome.  That’s not to say that faking confidence isn’t worth it, but you can’t expect it to work without consequence.  When you’ve faked it for long enough that your confidence is real, it becomes really hard to give yourself credit for NOT faking anything.  Your subconscious is still conditioned to be afraid that you’ll be found out and exposed as a fraud, even when you AREN’T.

So be ready for that, and figure out how to work around it if you can.

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